Namely, that voice likes to say "No" ... A LOT! Even when it doesn't make sense.
Me: Anna, do you want a snack?
Me: Anna, do you want to get down from your high chair?
Me: Anna, are you going to eat?
Me: Anna, are you done?
.....Fine. Let's try child #2.
Me: Addie, do you want a snack?
.....followed by violent head turning and spoon slapping and cookie throwing.
At that point, over meaningless non-essential arguments, I am tempted like any parent to make a mountain out of a mole-hill and lose my cool. And I have. Repeatedly.
But I read this today from another adoptive mother, and the post that inspired her comment...Basically, I went on a blogosphere goose-chase because I was so hungry for the encouragement that was feeding my soul at that moment.
Here's the quote that rocked my afternoon:
"It is the words we use that will raise our children out of the mire, healing words of love and belonging and affirmation. Similar words that God took great care to speak over us through Scripture, reminding us that even in our pain and sin, we are loved, adopted, important, valuable. It is not coming unglued over spilled drinks and lost shoes and daily mistakes, choosing not to further injure their little spirits over non-essentials."